Imagine your upbringing by a depressed single parent

It is clear that some people develop stress after certain stressful events that attached to their lives. Events such as not grown up by their biological parents until they reach stages of being in relationships, having no one to open up about their problems in their relationships. Sometimes not knowing if they were sexually abused when they were growing up, but due to the lack of discomfort they kept quiet.

At a later stage those stressful days normally return back in a smart way, when a person had her or his own children they will not realize their anger. Their children will not enjoy home because parents are always boiling into anger. This behavior has affected women most of the time. Where a woman will have kids with a man but a man will always use insulting words that “I am just supporting these things you said they are mine, where did you get these things they do not even look like me”

This is not accident, it is because of the lack of acceptance

Those words build anger to a woman in such a way that they build hatred towards the kids. They will be those kids that will be growing up tiny and cold because they are not happy. If this situation is happening to a teacher at school you will find out that kids are not happy when Miss so ‘n so is going to class because they know they will be beaten the whole period. That is how depressed and denial parents act to their kids.

Most kids in the street decided to leave their homes where there was butter and jam but they did not taste nice because of the situation. It is very difficult for many parents to accept their situations until their children grow older and be able to find the reasons. The worst threat of all threats is to get married to a person and later divorce when your second or third born child is nine months old. Reason for divorce “The 1^st two kids are not mine” said the man.

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How can a woman accept that more than the fact that those kids will turn to be the enemy in her marriage? When she looks at them the anger will just build within her and wish to burn them by boiling water (I am one of those kids who was once about to be throw an enamel kettle with boiling water in 1988. Thank you Lord you sent a savior my grandmother).

The teacher on cutting edge Thursday 22, March 2012 needs to find out what is wrong? There is a serious problem there that is not normal, no normal person can beat a child 300 latches. To that child that is the upbringing by a depressed parent at school.

Ask me why I say so? Most hours are spent in school, really parents are at work, they come late the child has already given up hope. For me I was better to be at school than to be at home to that child it is better to be at home than to be at school. This can lead him on spending the whole day on the street as to me it was better to spend the whole night in relatives or on the streets.

This beautiful home does not mean anything to a child grown in an abusive home.



How do you step from the top of a 100 foot Pole

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The entire topic is bringing the thinking of where do I come from, step from the top of a 100 foot pole and come down to the bottom is not an easy task. I have grown up normally like all other children not realizing the difficulties that my grandparent went through. The reason why I could not notice that was because when I come from school there was always food irrespective of where the food is coming from and how?

This old lady never complain about anything related to that and to our upbringing not knowing that she shared deep pains inside her watching us growing up, at a later stage when I was starting high school level I started to notice things but could not  say a word. We continued growing up attending school affording in a pension grant until Grade 12 where things were tough in such into an extent that I could not make it for that year.

I stayed at home looking for jobs in the surrounding Eastern Cape homes precisely to work as a domestic worker getting paid R200 at the end of the month. In 1999 I trained as a Security in East London, in the same year I was employed as a security at the so called Transkei College and Cicira College today known as Walter Sisulu University (WSU). I started to pay at least R400 per month. Down the line I fall pregnant, huhhhh that was another issue.

The contract was terminated and the other company took over, all of us were retrenched. At that time we were not familiar with Provident Fund and UIF therefore we just go out with nothing. When the going gets rough that old lady just ask me to leave the child at home when my child was 4 months old. She said you can go and look for a job. I returned back to square 1 and look for a job as a domestic worker because I wanted to be close to my child.

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Sooner I realized that my child was growing up in the long run I will not be able to support him. I came up with another strategy of thinking. I left home and travelled far more than 12 hours away from home. I built my bridge for 5 years to come back to the Tertiary level. I started by finishing my Grade 12, then Short Course in Public Relations at Cape Peninsula University of Technology and National Diploma in PR. I am still moving slowly like a Chameleon in my studies I am now in Btech Public Relations

That is “How do I step from the top of a 100 foot Pole”

This was my best way to do it so that I can return to 100 foot pole again and stay there forever.

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Here comes April!!!!

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I like the month that we will be approaching in the next two weeks. In several years of the struggle to fight for who am I today. I feel great when I know what the April of this year is bringing for me. I can’t wait to listen to that superb choral music “Gaudia Mus Igitir, Juvenes dum Sumus, Pos Jucundum Juventutem, Pos Molestum Senectutem, Nos abebid Humus” on the 19 April 2012. I will be treated like a queen that day. I will feel that I am a Graduate. Although it was not easy but I finally made it huhuuuu…….

A unplanned journey to the Eastern Cape

Unplanned journey from Western Cape to Eastern Cape for many times, this has become a pleasure not to mention that I only have a big vacuum flask that I pour my coffee to enjoy my journey. Seemingly I am still going to repeat this until such a time that I will settle for my own. Nice and bad experience huh…..I am always lucky to get a seat next to the window whether I use a flight or any public transport

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If I use public transport such as taxis and buses I watch animals alongside of the road depends on what time the bus or taxi departed. When I watch animals I used to forget that the journey was unplanned they make my mind flew away and see only nature, Nice experience. The bad experience ever is to have a seat next to a person with stinking shoes, armpits or a child that will be overfed to vomit you will need to know for how long the journey will be when I am in those situations.

These are the different types of experiences a person meet when having an unplanned journey but enjoyable though. 

We are what we do (social networks)

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We need to be careful on what we do and how we do things. The huge poison among all that is to mingle with wrong people and choose to follow paths that will give us labels. An example social network in our days does not take a minute to show the world that we are what we do. We also like to update our status about the things that we do that are ending up describing who we are. Really we need to think carefully.

When we come from our happy places we update our status that we are “so ‘n so” that is a very good and bad reputation we are imposing ourselves. We are what we do. Look at us that are how we choose to be. I like this most because is just to shoot yourself on your foot. Although those who are not drinking are not included here also this does not mean they are not included. All of us we fall on the same category we just differ about the strategies we use

Way Forward!!!

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There is nothing inspiring than a way forward I had a tough week, I did not know where to start. There is nothing inspiring like a way forward. In all this what is needed is dedication and commitment.

“So I think that, yes, anything that makes it more palatable and easier to understand, such as a Virtual Centre, has to be seen as a primary activity within the educational and information global state”. Quote by Richard Rogers Quotations 

When you feel that you are losing strength please remember he once gives a message that “place your footsteps where I placed mine in order not to feel this burden” those were his difficult times but through hope and faith he overcame all that. Me too through hope and faith I will. Will you?

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It was difficult for me to move in my first assignment but “Whoooo” what a relief; I became inspired by seeing a gap of a way forward. I hope all of us today we will be enjoying ourselves saying Thanks God it is Friday (TGIF). I urge to my fellow brothers and sisters out there where-ever you are and whatever you do please do not engage yourselves with danger. Do not forget to pray.

We are afraid of the wrong things



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Parents, Uncles and Aunts plus most traditional adoptive parents tend to treat their children in different ways of abuse irrespective of they are their children for real or adopted ones. The critical issues are from unemployment, if a bread winner is one person at home there are always quarrels in such homes. If the head of the home is a drinking person in that home there is a problem.

Other parents due to lack of support from their husbands they end-up giving up their kids to families that they think they will raise them without any legal binding. When these errors come back to them, when their kids are reminding them of their wrong doings they start to have feelings of being afraid of the wrong things. Other parents are giving birth and throw their infants in drains because they think of the difficulties of raising the kids. When all these memories come they are afraid of the wrong things they done.

Fish Falling From the Sky

There is a possibility that any country that needs to support the area can load fish in a plane and drop them during slightly raining weather in order to make people believe that when it is suppose to rain fish are falling from the sky, there is no rain in a desert area.

According to the dailymail.co.uk, hundreds and thousands of people are staying in a desert. The story teller says sometimes it rains fish and that did not happen once or twice. The good news about this story is that although people are leaving in a desert they will never die of hunger.

The other side of the story Meteorologists says the main reason of such incidences are caused by Tornado, it dries water in dam and lakes and threw everything that was there hundred miles away from the place. Whoever meets such an incidence will be really convinced that fish falls from the sky.

Long Distance between mothers and children



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Where is our faith?

In God we trust, there is nothing impossible. When we leave our homes with the intention of building our future we always put God in front of our journey things become easy. He said “put your footsteps where I put mine in order not to feel this burden on your shoulders” his disciples did not understand.

All he meant by those words was that we need to pray, we need to put our hopes on him, and faith will take us further. That is why we are here today. How do a mother feel when all the time when is visiting home is always finding a child grown up? Missing certain stages in your child is unbearable pain any mother or women can agree with me on that but in God we trust, there is nothing impossible.

Do children wait for us to come back before they grow up? No. What do we do as mothers we just endures the pain forever.



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What colour is the wind?

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In my opinion wind is colourless, I can associate wind with Green colour. The wind is performing nature which means wind is what we breathe, something that scientists can name it as Oxygen. I associate wind with the Green colour.

Oxygen is colourless, so what colour is the wind. Plants, trees and all other creatures including animals and human beings are using Oxygen to breathe so what colour is the wind. The Carbon Dioxide that we and animals breathe out is also derived from wind; it helps the plant to build up their chlorophyll. I associate wind with the Green colour. 

 When the Oxygen and Carbon Dioxide combine together they produce green colour in plants, these are also derived from wind. Therefore what colour is the wind because Oxygen and Carbon Dioxide are colourless. I associate wind with the Green colour.

When the wind blows we only feel that there is something passing by that hits us with no harm, this thing has a steam in such into an extent that it can move a 5000 gallon tank, it can move the roof of the house with its power. What colour is this thing? I associate wind with the Green colour

That wind is blowing water in seas and dams to produce water vapour, it causes droughts in many areas and nobody sees when taking water in dams is but dams can be seen dry after heavy winds and the water vapour is formed.  Therefore what colour is the water vapour? I associate wind with the Green colour.  

When we reach summer season we became excited because of rains that will be falling, all that is created by winds that blows seas and dams. Therefore what colour is the wind? I associate wind with the Green colour.

Wind is colourless and all other things that I associate with it are colourless. I picked the Green colour because wind natures. Therefore what colour is the wind? I associate wind with the Green colour.

Which colour would you pick?

Not everything is always perfect

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There is no way that I can start a day thinking everything will be perfect, if is that so I will be fooling myself. There will be some mistakes that I will be made the best thing is to learn from them each day. If some of my employees have a criticism against me I will need to remind myself that they do not hate me or I am not perfect but I just need to try my best. I would try not to criticise employee in his/her job but to motivate.

I would try to attend all the meetings scheduled with me in order to give courage and hope. Failure to give a feedback to the employees can also have a negative impact between employees and the boss. This can also make employees to be suspicious of the boss knowing his job or may be the boss is not sure of what is to be done for the company or maybe the boss lacks training.

Most companies have promoted bosses, such bosses does not share employees values of which If I were the boss that could be the most thing I would consider in order to learn to my companies employees. I will try by all means that my company employees are not going out to seek for help rather we all go out to seek for assistance instead of thinking we are perfect.

If I were the Boss

If I were the Boss I would like to accept employees that are given bad record by their employers or bosses. Most bosses love to bully employees and say I was also bullied so that is why I have to bully my juniors. This results to the employees to burst into anger on their bosses and look for other jobs.

In most instances such oppressed employees have good potential and they are normally perfect on their interviews but the bottom line of all is the references. Later on after interviews they received phone calls or letters stating that “we are sorry to inform you that you were not the best candidate for the company” and all that happens because of the reference given by an oppressive boss.

Therefore If I were the boss I will not go for such advices but I would rather give myself enough time to learn what type of a person I will be dealing with. Probation in companies is made for such things.

Negative job reference can lead to the former boss being sued for defamation or for discrimination and all other sort of accusations. There are bosses who cannot keep employees because of their religion, race, origin, color, gender, age, disability health status and pregnancy.

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When those people try to find other jobs, bosses are giving them bad references, if I was the boss I would hire exactly those kinds of people who are bad record given and lastly I would like to change times of resuming duties. Most accidents are caused by the hours that our jobs resume which are involving too much traffic on the roads

These were the happy moments

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When you see or watching people singing and rejoicing in the Lord you feel like all problems are gone. Later when they gone, when you are left alone it is when you realise that you had nothing to eat for supper, it is when you realise that you do not have money to send for your child for school. All these things are happening to us in order one day to have some stories to tell.

Having nothing to eat is the most difficult part in a human being. Not knowing where to get help is a serious nightmare. But you know what other things happened like miracles. When you are in the middle of nowhere, thinking, God is always sending someone to lean against. When things start working for you God remove that person at that time you will feel a pain not knowing that Our Father is revealing something for you.

When you get a job you become excited even if it is a contract, when the contract comes to an end you start being miserable, English they say "if you clean a wound you endure lot of pain but the purpose is to heal it". This means losing a job is an open path to a better one. Therefore we need to be patient. As I am patient waiting for an opportunity to come.

This is what our elders live for

I think we have lost the most important thing in our lives (Respect the elders in order to receive longer days in our lives) We are so fortunate to be born in a country like South Africa in other countries there are still living by the rules but they do not have the benefits that we have here.

There is a high possibility that our elders gone through certain hurting stages which today we are eating honey from it. But the sad part is that generation X is not scared  stabbing and killing an old man because of the pension grant from the government that he fought for, I can't even mention the raping that is about to overpower our country.

I respect my grandmother and grandfather because they were born during those hard times. They went to jail several times being treated like scumburgs look at what opportunities we have today but still we are suffering because we lack respect and ignoring staying by the rules.

What went wrong?

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Why is it so difficult to stay by the rules?

It is because we don't learn from negativity, we do not want to admit when we are wrong and lastly we do not want to adapt in certain situations. We all face challenges; someone may say negative words in front of you or about you or being rejected for something that you work hard for.
The thing we need to practice is to avoid acting according to the emotions by taking a deep breath and answer in a positive way. Emotions can make circumstances worse.
We need to control our responses, and look at a negative situation as an opportunity to grow up. If you made a mistake admit it.

We are all humans we all make mistakes and it is normal, then we need to swallow our pride and admit to our mistakes and learn from them. Do not allow anyone by heart to bring you down by saying negative things in your opinion, when you work under pressure it is hard to absorb pressure but never quit. This is a cure to overcome a negative situation.